Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Follow your Dreams and be Glad... it's Still Okay to Do That.

So hear me out, this blog post IS indeed, about a success story.  And it IS about following your dreams.  If you are a skeptic and reading this, before you allow the sarcasm to consume your thoughts, about how this is just another story about someone who quit their corporate job to follow their dreams and join the circus in the Caribbean... let me tell you... following your dreams is hard work.  Everything is work, in some capacity or another, energy spent, energy consumed, and energy traded.  So a dream, is being able to expend your energy in ways that bring you great joy, and fulfillment.

Coach Katie - after teaching Lyra at Free Flow Academy for nearly 2 years accepted a job with Cirque Du Soleil at Club Med in the Dominican Republic.  
Now... I'm not saying anyone and everyone should quit their jobs to go pursue their dream, or passion.  Life comes in various seasons, and sometimes it is our season to enter the grind, put in our hours, and go home.  But if you don't see yourself working the grind day in and day out for the rest of your life, you may want to consider exploring or developing a passion for something, and start your custom "Lifestyle Design".

I grew up playing organized sports.  I was a competitive athlete, and loved nearly every moment of it. And like many competitive athletes, you work hard toward goals to get a scholarship, or maybe even play professionally.  It wasn't until I was introduced to the Arts that I realized I was missing out on a whole other world.  And I transitioned from the world of being a Competitive Athlete, to a Movement Artist. Funny enough, my involvement in the Arts landed me a career as a Sports Newscaster for a cable television station in San Bernadino County.  It was interesting to see how so many children and professional athletes had ended up in sports, only because the parents hoped their child would get a scholarship. Even if the kids didn't like the sport, that's what they did. Sports was not fun, it was a job, a chore, a means to an end.  A thing you did because it might possibly lead to money, and success.  It was then that I realized that the whole point of sports is to teach important life lessons in a safe setting.

I remember interviewing a star athlete; he was prospective recruit from High School to the NBA.  He had absolutely no interest in talking about Basketball.  His only interest was girls, and that was that. This kid seemed to have it all, on the surface, but I could see his passion for Basketball had long subsided.  But even though his passion had dwindled, he was still going to receive an incredible opportunity, that would lead to more opportunities. Training can feel like a chore on many occasions, but I think if you have goals, and find a real, true passion that can carry you through the mundane and the difficult, the skies the limit on what dreams may come true.

We live in a First World.  And with that, comes an exercise of privilege.  Many of us, do get to follow our dreams and explore the things that make us happy, excited, and passionate about life.  What an incredible life and gift to be able to follow, create, and live our ideal! Everyone has challenges, and certainly limitations, but it would be a gross underestimation of our capacity to create, if we live in a mental state of limiting beliefs about ourselves.  It is a also a gross underestimation of our capacity to innovate if the voices we most often hear in our mind is that of sarcasm, and offense taken to those who promote following your dreams with enthusiasm.  You have to admit, in this swankin' First World, So much of what we need to survive, is readily available.  And everything we could ever want, to thrive, is at our fingertips.  So why not follow a dream?  Why not create your ideal day, day in and day out?

When Free Flow Academy was created, our vision was to bring together movement communities from all over the world to collaborate and create together.  When we look at our business model, we see that we are truly in the business of building up communities.  And with that, we have created a support network for our students, and clients to truly thrive.  We have had many clients and employees go on to do incredible things, like compete on American Ninja Warrior, or like Coach Katie, become a performer for Cirque Du Soleil.  Whatever your passion, or your dream, we're here to support you and help you achieve your goals.
Katie's skills and connection with the youth landed her a position that allows her to continue her career as a professional aerialist, but also a Cirque Coach for kids on holiday.  She has expressed that her life has achieved a balance full of beauty and rewarding connections.


And there is also this reward.  When Coach Katie isn't performing or teaching, she's enjoying the vastness of beauty in her natural surroundings.  Not a bad gig I would say.

Now, if you are feeling a slight twinge of jealousy, and thinking, maybe you need to get off your computer, or phone, stop reading this blog, and get moving on the things that really excite you, consider that their is a whole network of people that have goals, who are trying to get into shape, have fun, build a new skill, meet new people, and/or find a creative outlet... Sometimes we just need a fresh dose of energy in our lives, and other people and networks can be just the thing that provide that.  If you feel you don't have a passion, or a purpose, maybe it's time you surround yourself with people who do, and see what happens.

Consider that it's a lot more fun to share your experiences with others, and to allow yourself a little room for exploring and being creative on a solo quest, with the balance of a little friendly competition with your peers.  One thing I have found that I LOVE about the Movement Arts, is that there are no set positions to play, you get to explore all the avenues you want, and see for yourself, the opportunities that are out there.  And if the opportunity doesn't exist, well, you can create it.  When you put yourself out there, and don't allow yourself to be limited by the possibility of failure, and you approach your challenges, or lack thereof, with optimism, you find that you grow inside and out, you make new friends and connections, and you give yourself the tools to find balance, beauty, and joy.    

And hey, if you're looking to join the Circus, we have just the thing for you.  Check out our Circus Camp next week:

6/13 - 6/17 - Circus Arts (Aerial Arts, Poi, Acro, Sword Wielding, Facepainting)
12:30pm – Arrive/Warm up/Game/Open Gym
1:00pm – 2:00pm – Skill Building (Days will Vary but will include the following technical performance skills in the following order Mon - Fri: Balance, Poise, Stage Presence, Theatrics, Facepainting/Makeup application)
2:00pm – 2:15pm – Break/Snack/Open Gym
2:15pm – 3:15pm – Skill Building (Days will Vary but will include the following:  Aerial Silks, Poi, Sword, Acrobatics, Performance ready!)
3:15pm – 3:30pm – Open Gym

We will have a performance for parents on Friday at 3:20pm


Knowing the Code - A Guide to Mental Awareness

Free Flow Academy works with thousands of youth each year, and what we have learned is that kids often need visuals in order to assist them with conceptual learning.  One of the things we are offering this year is our "Child Safety and Youth Achievement" summer camp.  This is an afternoon summer camp series that will teach kids the following principles in the realm of what it means to be mentally aware:


Our goal with this camp is to instill principles of situational awareness and develop skill sets such as threat analysis and risk calculation.  These concepts are useful in any scenario, including water safety, getting lost or separated from your group, fire and natural disasters, terrorist attacks, wild animal encounters, stranger danger, and more.

When it comes to "Stranger Danger", we've learned over the last 30 years, that "Stranger Danger" is not the most effective method of teaching kids about risks.  Statistics show that 93% of kids are victimized by people that they know.  39% of the time it is a family member.  We believe that empowering the kids, and teaching them to discern potential threats, as well as give them mental and physical tools, is the best way to keep our kids safe.

By playing games we can teach about the color code of mental awareness.  Having children as young as 5 be able to identify different colors and associate those colors with an emotion and mental state is a good way to instill principles of mental awareness.  Here is a brief summary of games we have developed and intend to use in our Child Safety and Youth Achievement Camp:

Game 1)  "Color Condition"

Objective:  To teach kids how to identify the "Color Conditions" and how that relates to mental awareness.  To teach how to quickly change your mental state in order to overcome any stressor that is introduced.  This is a fun and active game.

The Game:  This game is similar to "Red Light Green Light".  The kids line up and are taught that when "White" is called out, the kids drop to the ground and assume the "sleep" position.  When "Yellow" is called out, the kids stand up and are alert.  When "Orange" is called out they position themselves in the ready to run and hands up to defend position. When "Red" is called out, the kids sprint across the floor, until the next color is called out.  When "Black" is called out, the kids ball up and put their head down.

The goal is to associate "Condition Yellow" "Condition Orange" and "Condition Red" to be empowering states of being.  As the kids warm up to the association, we introduce "Stressors".

Stressor Variations:

A "Stressor" could be a coach dressed up in a Dinosaur suit, that hides and then jumps out to scare the kids during one of their Color Conditions.

Or it could be a a Coach armed with a foam noodle that intends to attack the kids, and if they get smacked with the foam noodle they have to do jump squats.

Another Stressor is that we will have the kids group up in teams, and the teams have to obtain a hidden object.  The ground rules are established ahead of time (such as, the team cannot separate and must stay together), but at some point the Coach will try to trick them and get them to separate or break the ground rules.  If  anyone breaks a ground rule, then the whole team has to do burpees.

Game 2) "Condition Yellow"

Objective:  To teach the kids the importance of staying in "Condition Yellow" as often as possible, as well as practice this mental awareness so that it will become an automated state of being. This is a fun and meditative game that brings lots of smiles and laughs.

The kids must sit in lotus position for 1 min - 4 min, depending on the age group.  The Coach has a foam noodle, and if a child falls out of condition yellow, the Coach "attacks" them with the noodle.  If the child blocks or dodges the noodle, then they don't have to do jump squats.  But if they are caught in condition white, and get smacked by the noodle, then they have to do jump squats.

There are lots of great programs online, books, and literature that give parents, teachers, and educators powerful tools to help keep their kids safe.  We have compiled some of those great resources below, for you to use and review.   Much of our programming is based on the resources we provide in this list.  If you have some other great resources you would like to share, please feel free to post in the comments!

Click the link to sign up for Free Flow Academy's Child Safety and Youth Achievement Camp, which takes place 6/20 - 6/24 & 7/18 - 7/22 from 12:30 - 3:30pm.

Child Safety Resources:

http://childrescuenetwork.org/about-us/safety-programs-to-protect-children/safety-tips/

http://www.scouting.org/scoutsource/HealthandSafety/GSS.aspx

http://www.missingkids.com/AMBER

http://www.authormelissaharkerridenour.com/fiction-books.html

http://www.headlinekids.com/

http://www.protectchildrenonline.org/

http://www.childidprogram.com/

http://www.stopsexoffenders.com/




Monday, June 6, 2016

2016 Summer Camp Schedule & Itinerary

Free Flow Academy Camp Rules
Know Before You Come!
All students are “Challenged by Choice” and will have the option of participating or sitting out.  If they choose to not participate in an exercise due to fatigue or injury, they can sit out of the exercise, or call their parents to be picked up.  We allow certain times for open gym, and students not participating in the exercises will not be eligible for open gym privilege.  Camps are designed for practicing and fine tuning the fundamentals, as well as allowing plenty of time for students to play and connect with each other.  Please have your child dressed in proper work out attire (comfort fitted shorts or pants, low soled shoes, and comfort fit tee or tank).  Please pack high calorie nutritiously dense snacks and/or lunch.  Students will train at a steady pace throughout the day.  It is not our goal to send them home considerably exhausted or fatigued, unable to come back the next day.  They will have vigorous training, as well as steady low impact training, creating a good balance that should be able to sustain them throughout the entire day, as well as the week.  Considering students are at varying fitness levels, we ask the students to pay heed to their own bodies signals, and to work at a challenging but sustainable pace.  If a student feels fatigued, they should not attempt new movements.  Proper hydration and caloric intake is a must throughout the day.  All other gym rules apply during camps.  Those rules can be found at the following link: http://freeflowacademy.blogspot.com/2016/02/new-member-rulessafety-orientation.html

Camp Itinerary

6/13-6/17, 7/25 – 7/29 – Parkour & Freerunning (Half Day/Full Day Schedule)
8am – Half Day (HD) Campers Arrive/Warm up/Game/Open Gym
9am – Full Day (FD) Campers Arrive/Half Day Campers take Break
9:15am – Skill Building Game
9:40am – Break
9:45am – Parkour Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Vaults, Bars, Acrobatics, Precisions)
10:45am – Snack/Break/Open Gym
11:00am – Freerunning Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Vaults, Bars, Acrobatics, Precisions)
12:00pm – HD Campers go home/FD campers take lunch break
12:30pm – Parkour & Freerunning Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Vaults, Bars, Acrobatics, Precisions)
1:30pm – 2pm – Open Gym
2:00pm – 2:30pm – Game
2:30pm – 3:30pm – Conditioning & Flexibility

6/20 – 6/24 – Parkour & Tumbling (Half Day/Full Day Schedule)
8am – Half Day (HD) Campers Arrive/Warm up/Game/Open Gym
9am – Full Day (FD) Campers Arrive/Half Day Campers take Break
9:15am – Skill Building Game
9:40am – Break
9:45am – Parkour Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Vaults, Bars, Acrobatics, Precisions)
10:45am – Snack/Break/Open Gym
11:00am – Tumbling Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Rolls, Cartwheels & Roundoffs, Front/Back Walkovers & Kickovers, Handsprings, Front/Back Tucks, Hand Balancing)
12:00pm – HD Campers go home/FD campers take lunch break
12:30pm – Parkour/Tumbling Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Vaults, Bars, Acrobatics, Precisions, Rolls, Cartwheels & Roundoffs, Front/Back Walkovers & Kickovers, Handsprings, Front/Back Tucks, Hand Balancing)
1:30pm – 2pm – Open Gym
2:00pm – 2:30pm – Game
2:30pm – 3:30pm – Conditioning & Flexibility

7/11 – 7/15 – Parkour & Martial Arts (Half Day/Full Day Schedule)
8am – Half Day (HD) Campers Arrive/Warm up/Game/Open Gym
9am – Full Day (FD) Campers Arrive/Half Day Campers take Break
9:15am – Skill Building Game
9:40am – Break
9:45am – Parkour Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Vaults, Bars, Acrobatics, Precisions)
10:45am – Snack/Break/Open Gym
11:00am – Martial Arts Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Threat Analysis, Conflict Diffusion, Straight Strikes, Hooking Strikes, Straight Blocks, Hooking Blocks, Standup Defense, Ground Defense, Hard & Soft Weapons)
12:00pm – HD Campers go home/FD campers take lunch break
12:30pm – Parkour/Martial Arts Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Vaults, Bars, Acrobatics, Precisions, Threat Analysis, Conflict Diffusion, Straight Strikes, Hooking Strikes, Straight Blocks, Hooking Blocks, Standup Defense, Ground Defense, Hard & Soft Weapons)
1:30pm – 2pm – Open Gym
2:00pm – 2:30pm – Game
2:30pm – 3:30pm – Conditioning & Flexibility

8/1 - 8/5 - Intermediate/Advanced Parkour & Freerunning (Half Day/Full Day Schedule)
8am – Warm up/Open Gym Jam Session
9:15am – Game/Skill Challenge
9:40am – Break
9:45am – Parkour Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Vaults, Bars, Acrobatics, Precisions)
10:45am – Snack/Break/Open Gym
11:00am – Freerunning Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Vaults, Bars, Acrobatics, Precisions)
12:00pm – HD Campers go home/FD campers take lunch break
12:30pm – Parkour & Freerunning Skill Building (Stations will include any/either of the following skill sets:  Vaults, Bars, Acrobatics, Precisions)
1:30pm – 2:30pm – Open Gym Jam Session
2:30pm – 3:30pm – Conditioning & Flexibility



Specialty Afternoon Half Day Camps 12:30pm - 3:30pm Schedule

6/13 - 6/17 - Circus Arts (Aerial Arts, Poi, Acro, Sword Wielding, Facepainting)
12:30pm – Arrive/Warm up/Game/Open Gym
1:00pm – 2:00pm – Skill Building (Days will Vary but will include the following technical performance skills in the following order Mon - Fri: Balance, Poise, Stage Presence, Theatrics, Facepainting/Makeup application)
2:00pm – 2:15pm – Break/Snack/Open Gym
2:15pm – 3:15pm – Skill Building (Days will Vary but will include the following:  Aerial Silks, Poi, Sword, Acrobatics, Performance ready!)
3:15pm – 3:30pm – Open Gym
We will have a performance for parents on Friday at 3:20pm


6/20 - 6/24, 7/18 - 7/22  - Child Safety & Achievement Course (Self Defense, Anti-Bullying using the "3T" method, Parkour & Ropes Course)
12:30pm – Arrive/Warm up/Game/Open Gym
1:00pm – 2:00pm – Skill Building (Days will Vary but will include skills and exercises in the following: Be Watchful of Tricky People (in life and on the web), Know the Code! MentalAwareness Exercise, Peer to Peer Conflict Diffusion with the “3T” method, Parkour Fundamentals, Martial Fundamentals)
2:00pm – 2:15pm – Break/Snack/Open Gym
2:15pm – 3:15pm – Skill Building (Days will Vary but will include the following:  Tactical Escape in a Vertical Environment, Stand up Defense, Ground Defense)
3:15pm – 3:30pm – Open Gym


Friday, May 20, 2016

Navigating the World of Body-Shaming. And Yes you CAN do Parkour and Whatever else...

As of late I have been pondering the many culture wars that are prevalent in our society. Rape Culture is a culture war that I have decided to get involved in, and become an advocate of justice and education through our Survival Science self defense program, which is the first of it's kind to incorporate fundamentals of Martial Arts and Parkour. But rape culture has bred some wicked offspring that have grown into something that is even more widespread and is grossly sickening. I would deem the offspring to be our society's habit of body shaming. Health, Happiness, and Well-Being come in all shapes, sizes, and forms. Our bodies are divine gifts, that are one of a kind, unique organic machinery that is designed to survive and adapt to its environment. When I hear people say things like, "I hate my body" or "I wish I was skinny" or "I just want to lose weight"... It kills me. Stop shaming your body. Stop judging yourself. Stop allowing sick horrible ideas to control and influence your mind! Love your body for all that it is, and for all that it can do, for all that it can become. If you decide you are only going to love your body when you lose 30 lbs., that's like saying you are only going to love your children when they grow up and make something of themselves that will make you proud. Your body is one of the greatest gifts you receive in this life. Do not waste it. Do not judge it. Do not destroy it. Furthermore, do not tolerate anyone who disrespects your body. Advertisements that are passive aggressive attempts to shame you into buying into a mold is no different than a cruel joke or a snide remark that insults your body or image. Do not allow anyone to desecrate your image, your body, and ultimately your spirit. I think it's time to make a stand, to bring to light the destructive nature of body shaming. Let's move past this and ultimately conquer this war. Your body is not somebody else's property. You are not a tool for a predators gain. A predator gains control by strategically breaking down the victims confidence in themselves. No one can make you feel inferior without your permission. ‪#‎bodyshaming‬ ‪#‎culturewar‬ ‪#‎itstopswithme‬
Hmm... I suppose "How hot can I be?" is a question we should all be pondering.  And I certainly want to keep up with Kim and Khloe.  Hotness is a competition you know.  Or is that just my brain starting to melt?

Bravo.  Just Bravo.  At least we can take away that perfection lies within the construct of this relentlessly manipulated image.

Phew!  Thank goodness.  Real people doing real cool things.  And they come in all shapes and sizes.  That was a close one! Photo from Julieangel.com



Thank goodness for community.  Community and Friendship rather than judgement and competition based on skin deep standards?  YES!  I'll take it!!
Photo from Julieangel.com

Truly impressive.  And she was able to achieve this in a pair of sweats and a t-shirt?!?!
Photo from Julieangel.com

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Movement. Artistry. Activism. The New Forefront of Health and Fitness Motivation


Movement. Artistry. Activism.  It's the New Forefront of Health and Fitness Motivation.  Millenials are making activism cool again, and there are a lot of reasons why we are seeing Post Modernism revival and how it is effecting every industry in America, including the health, fitness, and recreation industry.  Everyone has a cause, and everyone is looking to do more than what we did before.  Greener initiatives, more ethical standards, and efficiently using every ounce of energy we have to produce maximum results. The bikes we use in cycling sessions are producing clean energy.  Parkour isn't just a movement discipline, it's a way of life, leaving no trace.  



 
Team Neoflow leaves no trace in and around business parks, roads, and training areas.

It makes perfect sense.  Humans generate more energy every day than almost any other resource on the planet. Every movement we make is energy produced.  And it's a diverse road ahead on how new companies and innovations are going to create efficient ways of multi-tasking any and all energy produced by humans.  

Since we are already thinking outside of the box, what about using human innovations as platforms to effect change?  That is something human's have done for quite some time.  Athletes, Rappers, Musicians, Artists, Poets, Writers, Filmmakers, are using their craft, artistry, and innovations to spread messages about social change, political reform, substance abuse prevention, and much more.  Recently Free Flow Academy partnered with CALY (Coalition for Auburn and Lincoln Youth), and Auburn Hip Hop Congress, to promote an understanding that you can achieve a "Natural High" by pursuing a craft/passion of some kind, rather than turning to drugs or alcohol.  Placer County has a high concentration of substance abuse among the youth.  The reason for that is accessibility - we have the I-80, I-5, 99, and a multitude of corridors for drug and human trafficking.  It's depressing, but at the same time, the data shows that MOST youth are making good choices and choosing to concentrate on the things that are positive.   

What is also exciting is that more youth are getting involved in activism, and are recognizing that the fitness industry and media has deceived them into thinking that they have to fit a certain mold to be healthy.  Which is the opposite of the truth.  Health comes in all shapes and sizes.  Now that the youth are becoming more educated and aware of "Body-Shaming" marketing tactics, they are finding that they feel pulled to activities that promote health and fitness, with a worthwhile cause that is in alignment with their values.  Wearing minimalist shoes, for example, as well as getting involved with companies and organizations that share their vision of participating in socially and environmentally conscious pursuits.

Miss Elle speaking out at Auburn Earth Day Festival.  

Parkour is about adapting and overcoming your obstacles.  It's not about trying to destroy what's in front of you because it's in your way and challenging you.  It's not about you moving out of the way either.  It's about adaptation and change.  You have a wall in front of you, take a moment and observe that wall.  Build a relationship with that wall, and learn to respect the wall for what it is, what it stands for, and what it is designed to protect.  Then you take some time to change yourself, your body, your physiology.  YOU take the time to grow YOU.  And then, you teach the wall how you can co-exist, and help each other out.  That wall is your opportunity to be more than what you were yesterday, today, or a minute ago.  These are the life lessons Parkour gives us.


Activism doesn't have to be all seriousness.  Free Flow Academy puts on free workshops at a variety of events to promote positive change in a fun, friendly, community focused setting.  Pictured here is Coach Rob with Boys and Girls Club of Auburn.
Many students find they are not motivated by fame, fortune, looking cool, ect... With each generation we are seeing a trend of  youth seeking deeper meaning and purpose in their work and in their lives.  Technology and accessibility to information is creating a multitude of fragmented markets, incredibly diversified planes, and a need to explore more than what exists in mainstream culture.  Here team Neoflow students check out how DJing technology works, new ways of mixing music, and the process of local artists to create new and dynamic tunes.  Team Neoflow went out to the Boys and Girls Club to perform to music that was created on the spot.  We're looking at a trend where kids are not afraid to fail.  They want to explore, and to find out what works and what doesn't.

Miss Elle speaking at a substance abuse prevention assembly.  Here we have an opportunity to affect positive change, within our own lives, and in the lives of others.  We have so many options, so why waste those options on things that will not serve us?  Why waste our bodies, our minds, on choices that do not build us up to be stronger, better, faster, smarter?


One of the things we do at our presentations is that we put on a parkour and nun-chuck demo. People often wonder why I would spend so much time training in a self-defense weapon (nun-chucks) that is illegal to carry in California, the State in which I reside.  Many people consider this an enormous limitation.  But the way I see it, that very limitation is what makes this weapon so powerful.  I know I cannot carry it with me where ever I go for protection.  That limitation forces me to train in a way that allows me to put on a lens of resourcefulness and adaptability.  I have to think that whatever I am holding in my hand is a potential nun-chuck.  That could be a purse, a rope, a chain... I could put a rock in my sock and turn that into a nun-chuck.  My skills translate to anything and everything I put my hands on, and there is a fundamental understanding that I am the weapon, and anything I place in my hand is a tool to orchestrate whatever I need to protect myself or the ones I love.  What's more is that my limitations, give me LIMITLESS options.  We need to challenge molds and ideas that perpetuate limiting beliefs about ourselves and what we are capable of.  Often our limitations are the very thing that empower us, elevate us, and bring us to a higher plane of understanding.  With that said, raise your fist high and ACT. 


#substanceabuseprevention #Naturalhigh #bodyshaming #ecogym #greengym #artandactivism #parkour #nunchucks #selfdefense


Anti-Bullying... or rather... Conflict Management Skills for Kids & Adults


Team NeoFlow - a Parkour Demo team devoted to excellence, teamwork, and building respect for oneself, the environment, and the community.

I have been training in Martial Arts for over 15 years.  And no matter how much training I have, there is always be someone bigger, stronger, and more skilled at a fight than I am.  But one thing I have learned, is that using your self-defense skills, always starts with what you allow into your mind.  Sometimes we are unable to resolve conflict.  It takes multiple parties to resolve conflict, and you don't have the option of controlling other peoples choices.  But you can control your own.

Tactical communications has been used in a variety of law enforcement agencies in order to reduce risk and threat.  Verbal Judo is just one of several systems that are used to tactically communicate and potentially prevent conflicts from escalating out of control.  We don't want to have to use our fists if we don't have to.  Even if we are skilled, and physically powerful, engaging in combat runs us into high risks, and can often times lead to even greater threat.

Active Listening is another way to engage in diplomacy, as well as understand the intentions of others.  By learning how to actively listen, we become better communicators.

Socialization vs. Domination:

It is no secret to most that I home school my kids.  And it's nothing against public school actually.  I myself, thrived in public school and would have absolutely hated home school.  I had some of the most AMAZING teachers in public school, and I would not be who I am today had I not been trained and developed in the system.  So why did I choose home school?  To put it quite simply, it is a better fit for our family for the time being, and I believe I can set my children up for success more effectively if I home school.  We live in a rapidly changing world, and my kids personalities are so different than my own.  And each of them thrive in different environments.  I also wanted to be able to instill certain values in their early childhood education.  One of the confirmations I had while considering home school was during a parent teacher conference.  I had great respect for my child's 1st grade teacher.  And still do, to this day.  But she said something that struck a cord with me.  I mentioned that their seemed to be some conflict between my son and another boy, and I wanted to follow up and see how the situation was being managed.  She said matter of factly, "Oh they are just kids being kids, and they'll toughen up as they get older.  Once they hit middle school they'll learn pretty quick how to be tough."  It was at that moment I realized "socialization" was taught as, "domination", or having an attitude of "toughness".  My first thought was that we as a society don't need "tougher" kids.  We need more compassionate, critical thinkers, who have the ability to resolve conflict on their own.  So I set out on a quest to find some concepts that would aid me in my search for a more effective socialization system that would give my kids the tools they need to resolve and manage conflict in their lives, as well as my own.

After attending a multitude of coaching sessions and seminars, I came across a gold mine of wisdom from a Coach (Alonzo Cahoon - US Military Veteran, Mastery and Leadership Academy Graduate - Anthony Robbins Organization) who mentored me in a conflict that I was having.  He is working on a new book, that will be released later this year, so I'm pleased to be able to share some of his insight before his work hits the shelves.  I will be adding his online presence links within the next few months.  He taught me the the 3T method:

1) Teach
2) Tolerate
3) Terminate

He said in conflict, you narrow it down to 3 options.  You cannot control their actions, but you can control your own.  You can teach, and grow yourself and the individual; or you can tolerate the situation and individual; or you can terminate the situation and your relationship with the individual.
If the relationship has the capacity to grow via teaching, then that is the most ideal situation.  If that person is say, a family member, and they are unwilling or uncompromising to see your side, then tolerating may be the best option.  And then if the relationship proves to be extremely toxic and suppresses your ability to thrive and grow, then terminating the relationship is likely your best option.

Would Captain America and Batman get along?  Perhaps the next superhero movie will explore this question.

Either way, you are making a choice, on your own terms.  There is no confusion as to why or how you are handling the situation.  Coming to a place of certainty is empowering, and develops critical thinking skills.  We have to get away from being sucked into our own story.  Being in a "reactive" mode does not serve us.  The 3T method gives us the tools we need to step back from a situation objectively and assess the situation from both sides. Further more, the 3T method helps us create a situation that is ideal, while growing our own social intelligence skills.  And even so, the 3T method helps us to become social investigators, in that we won't take things at face value.  We pay close attention to language and the actions/reactions of the individuals that we conflict with.  By investigating the conflict more thoroughly and objectively, we empower ourselves AND the individual we have a conflict with.  Now wouldn't that be a great set of tools to leave to our kids?  Doesn't that seem far more effective than a vague and uncertain, "hopefully as they get older they'll have thicker, tougher skins".  Training out peoples emotions doesn't seem like a good plan.  We can train mental toughness and prowess through movement, sports, and by mastering a craft or a discipline.  It's far more effective to train toughness in a safe setting that isn't going to leave you with emotional scars and feelings of worthlessness.  Furthermore, training someone in a movement or mindfulness discipline instills feelings of self worth, and makes you much less of a target for perpetrators seeking conflict.

Parkour and Martial Arts can be used as a Platform to create a better world by understanding that our "Obstacles" can be viewed as "Opportunities".  We are not limited by what stands in front of us.  We can grow ourselves, our minds, and our bodies to be able to understand the walls and barriers around us.  By understanding our environment, we become better equipped to fly up and over the barriers, while also respecting the barrier's position.  We don't spend time and energy knocking down walls.  We build the tools necessary to fly over them. 


Coach Elle (Miss Elle) teaches Kung Fu at Free Flow Academy - empowering students to tap into their Warrior being. "Inside each of  us, is a Warrior, self-assigned to protect something of deep and personal value." - Miss Elle



Coach Colton, Miss Elle, and ShiFu Lon Beyer are the creators of "Survival Science" a self defense program taught at Free Flow Academy.  They teach regular clinics, workshops, seminars, as well as speak at assemblies and special events.  Their program is the first of it's kind to incorporate fundamentals of Martial Arts AND Parkour into their self defense curriculum.
ShiFu Lon and Miss Elle create entertaining curriculum that
elevate interest and passion for movement and artistry.
Incorporating Parkour into self-defense and conflict management curriculum are  empowering, entertaining and develop mental prowess.

ShiFu Lon Beyer teaches Ninjitsu and Kung Fu classes at Free Flow Academy

ShiFu Lon Beyer, Coach Colton, Miss Elle taking some time to pose for the camera at the State Capitol while conducting field testing research for their Survival Science program.  During field testing they conducted interviews, training sessions, and tested out some tactical techniques in a variety of controlled settings.

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Additional links/resources:

Verbal Judo
Anthony Robbins Research Organization
Active Listening


Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Re-Child Yourself - The Ultimate Anti-Aging Program

In March 2010 Elle Magazine put out an article entitled "Good Vibrations" a basic summary of how cosmetic companies were moving to products that vibrated the skin on the face to produce anti-aging results, to reduce the appearance of wrinkles and fine lines.  The technology behind it was inspired by the Sonic Care toothbrush.  Nuskin, Sephora, Ulta, and pretty much every major cosmetic line was getting on board with tools that would shake up the molecules on your face to gently exfoliate and use vibrations to make you look younger.  That article was released 6 years ago, but the Science behind "Good Vibrations" maintains its straight forward data.  In 2001 NASA released an article about Vibration Therapy being used in space, to maintain the health of astronauts.  In a nutshell, your cells need to move.  If you they don't move, then they die.  Gravity is good for us, and having that constant force against our cells causes our molecules to constantly move and adapt to the changing environment.  If we did not have the force of gravity, we would experience muscle atrophy, lose bone density, and experience extremely rapid breakdown of our body tissues.

So with that in mind consider how exercise causes good vibration - all that jumping, running, water treading, landing, and overall movement loads your body and gets your molecules moving and heating up.  They become stronger, denser, more adaptable, giving your overall appearance, a more youthful shine.  Ever wonder why rock stars look so young?  Plastic surgery may be the reason, but consider how much vibration they create with music?  There is Science to back up vibrational therapy, sound healing, and all those jazz concerts that you like to groove to, move to, and experience those "Good Vibes".

If you want to stay young and youthful looking, look for activities that are going to give you opportunities to get your vibes on.  One of the the things Free Flow Academy is known for is "The Energy".  People often comment on getting a "Good Vibe" when they come in.  Well!  Here's the Scientific news:  That "good vibe" could very well be because there are a lot of vibrations being created within our facility.  Furthermore, we don't age or shape discriminate.  We have people young and old, every shape and size, doing what we do.  Rechild yourself and be rewarded with lasting youth.

Get back in touch with who you REALLY are at Free Flow Academy, the largest and most diversified Parkour gym on the West Coast.

Life is short, so create beautiful experiences!

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